Close your eyes and visualize where you see your life in 5 years.Here are some prompts that may help you figure out your negotiables and nonnegotiables: “When you’re able to identify what’s negotiable and nonnegotiable, you can continue to be flexible and allow what you’re looking for to evolve and be more specific to the relationship - while staying connected to your wants and needs,” they say. It can also be helpful to understand what feels negotiable vs. Do my goals and dreams involve another person or other people? To what extent or degree am I willing to work toward that right now?.What level of commitment, time, and energy am I willing to bring into this dynamic right now?.What is my preferred relationship structure? What is my relationship orientation?.

“It’s helpful to know what you’re looking for as you go into dating,” says Jesse Kahn, LCSW-R, CST, the director and sex therapist at The Gender & Sexuality Therapy Center in New York City. Next, figure out what you want while dating